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Unshakable certainty is the key that unlocks every door, yet few men ever find it.

Whether that negative self-talk and insecurity is showing up in your health, wealth, or relationships, you're paying a high price. Authentic, Christ-centered certainty is the one thing everyone will follow, everyone will pay for, and every high-value woman desires.

No matter how successful you appear on the outside, negative self-talk will kill you over time.

You're not alone. Let's talk.

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.”

~ Henry David Thoreau

Here's How Insecurity May Be Showing Up:

Impostor Syndrome: You may feel like you don't deserve your success and that you're just pretending to be successful.
Fear of Failure: You might constantly worry about making mistakes or not living up to your own or others' expectations.
Comparing Yourself to Others: You may measure your success against others and feel inadequate if you perceive someone else as more successful.
Never Feeling Like You're Enough: You might feel like you need to constantly achieve more, never satisfied with your accomplishments.
Overlooking Achievements: You may minimize your successes and focus on perceived shortcomings.
Pressure to Succeed: You may put immense pressure on yourself to maintain a high level of success, leading to stress and anxiety.
Perfectionism: You might strive for perfection and be overly critical of yourself when things aren't flawless.
Feeling Isolated: You may believe you have to face challenges alone, not seeking support from others.
Fear of Burnout: You might constantly worry about burning out due to the demands of your success.
Success at the Expense of Well-being: You may sacrifice personal well-being for professional success, leading to feelings of emptiness or unfulfillment.

Here's How Insecurity May Be Showing Up:

Impostor Syndrome: You may feel like you don't deserve your success and that you're just pretending to be successful.
Fear of Failure: You might constantly worry about making mistakes or not living up to your own or others' expectations.
Comparing Yourself to Others: You may measure your success against others and feel inadequate if you perceive someone else as more successful.
Never Feeling Like You're Enough: You might feel like you need to constantly achieve more, never satisfied with your accomplishments.
Overlooking Achievements: You may minimize your successes and focus on perceived shortcomings.
Pressure to Succeed: You may put immense pressure on yourself to maintain a high level of success, leading to stress and anxiety.
Perfectionism: You might strive for perfection and be overly critical of yourself when things aren't flawless.
Feeling Isolated: You may believe you have to face challenges alone, not seeking support from others.
Fear of Burnout: You might constantly worry about burning out due to the demands of your success.
Success at the Expense of Well-being: You may sacrifice personal well-being for professional success, leading to feelings of emptiness or unfulfillment.

Is It Affecting Your Relationship?

You're navigating the dating scene, but not attracting the woman you want.
Your marriage has lost its flare, and there's no sexual intimacy.
You're feeling disrespected, dishonored, and unappreciated for all you do.
You're feeling inadequate for failing to meet your partner's expectations.
You found the one but you're stressed about the idea of money and marriage.
You've been focusing on the money, but you're starting to feel lonely romantically.
You're in an unhealthy relationship, consistently feeling unhappy or depressed.
You're feeling resentful toward your partner for unmet needs.

Your marriage has lost its flare, and there's no sexual intimacy.
You're feeling disrespected, dishonored, and unappreciated for all you do.
Feeling inadequate for failing to meet your partner's expectations.
You're navigating the dating scene, but still attracting all the crazies.
You've decided it's best to focus on the money and remain alone.
In an unhealthy relationship, consistently feeling unhappy or depressed.
Feeling resentful toward your partner for unequal contributions or unmet needs.

More Challenges You May Be Facing...

Fear of Vulnerability: Do you fear showing your emotional side or letting your guard down, even in your closest relationships?
Time Management: Is your busy schedule leaving little room to nurture a romantic connection?
Emotional Disconnect: Some men have difficulty connecting with their partner on an emotional level. This can result in a sense of distance and a lack of intimacy in the relationship.
Perfectionism: Do you set impossibly high standards, both for yourself and your partner?
Difficulty in Trusting: Is it challenging for you to fully trust others due to past experiences or self-reliance?
Communication Barriers: Are you struggling with effective communication, expressing your emotions, and actively listening to your partner, often leading to misunderstandings?
Work-Life Balance: Does balancing your career and personal life feel like a constant struggle?
Prioritizing Work Over Romance: Do you sometimes prioritize your work over your relationship, inadvertently neglecting your partner's emotional needs?
Insecurity: Despite your achievements, do you still feel insecure in your ability to maintain a fulfilling romantic relationship?
Lack of Understanding: Do you often feel misunderstood or find it hard to understand the unique needs of a high-value feminine partner?
Neglecting Intimacy: Do you struggle to maintain a passionate and fulfilling sexual connection with your wife?
Resistance to Change: Are you resistant to making necessary adjustments that have been requested of you for a more emotionally connected and romantic relationship?
Lack of Appreciation: Do you feel unappreciated or undervalued in your role as husband and father, leading to resentment and frustration?

If you're a high achiever but still feeling insecure or unfulfilled in Life or Love, it's time to get unlocked.

Fear of Vulnerability: Do you fear showing your emotional side or letting your guard down, even in your closest relationships?
Time Management: Is your busy schedule leaving little room to nurture a romantic connection?
Emotional Disconnect: Some men have difficulty connecting with their partner on an emotional level. This can result in a sense of distance and a lack of intimacy in the relationship.
Perfectionism: Do you set impossibly high standards, both for yourself and your partner?
Difficulty in Trusting: Is it challenging for you to fully trust others due to past experiences or self-reliance?
Communication Barriers: Are you struggling with effective communication, expressing your emotions, and actively listening to your partner, often leading to misunderstandings?
Work-Life Balance: Does balancing your career and personal life feel like a constant struggle?
Prioritizing Work Over Romance: Do you sometimes prioritize your work over your relationship, inadvertently neglecting your partner's emotional needs?
Insecurity: Despite your achievements, do you still feel insecure in your ability to maintain a fulfilling romantic relationship?
Lack of Understanding: Do you find it hard to comprehend the unique needs of a high-value feminine partner?
Neglecting Intimacy: Do you struggle to maintain a passionate and fulfilling sexual connection with your wife?
Resistance to Change: Are you resistant to making necessary adjustments that have been requested of you for a more emotionally connected and romantic relationship?
Lack of Appreciation: Do you feel unappreciated or undervalued in your role as husband and father, leading to resentment and frustration?

If you're a high achiever but still feeling insecure or unfulfilled in romance, it's time to unlock your love life.

The Struggle Of Success

You've achieved wealth and success in your professional journey, but a lingering emptiness and a sense of isolation persist. Despite financial triumphs, your romantic relationship feels like a confusing maze of unspoken doubts. The once-strong family connections now seem distant, adding to the feeling of being alone. In the comfort of affluence, a sense of unfulfillment arises, prompting you to question the purpose of your path. It's time to confront the shadows beneath success, address the roots of discontent, and seek genuine fulfillment beyond mere material accomplishments, all while combating the isolating emotions that may surround you.

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A 12-week course led by Trevor and Bridgett for married individuals seeking to strengthen their relationship by understanding and embracing the unique differences between masculine and feminine traits to create greater strength, intimacy, and passion in their marriage.

Hey, I'm Trevor.

I'm a men's coach who helps improve your self-confidence and certainty in life and relationships.

I help men boost self-confidence, embrace their true masculinity, improve communication, grow emotional intelligence, and heal from life's challenges. All to build a fulfilling life with meaningful relationships.

Genuine self-confidence is a key that unlocks the door to results and fulfillment in life and relationships.

When a man gains a deep understanding of himself and recognizes his potential, he equips himself with the tools to effectively face life's challenges and engage emotionally in his relationship, thereby elevating every aspect of his life.

My own life journey has been filled with diverse experiences, from firefighting and raising four children to facing bankruptcy and leading others in the business world. Over the past 30 years, I've encountered both triumphs and hardships, all of which have taught me valuable lessons.

I've grappled with self-doubt, depression, and confusion as a husband, father, and businessman. I've navigated the challenging path of a toxic relationship that ended in divorce, ultimately finding my way to a joyful, passionate, and intimate marriage with a radiant and powerful woman who is not only my lover but also my best friend and business partner.

My life lessons have been hard-earned, and my passion lies in leveraging my experiences to help other men break through areas where they may feel stuck in their life and relationships. My leadership and coaching style is direct, nonjudgmental, and centered on personal growth, mindset shifts, and developing the skills to achieve tangible results.

~Trevor

Founder of The Outlier's Way

Learn More - A Letter From Trevor

Welcome! I'm Trevor Dunbar, and I’m glad you’re here.

If you're ready to have more self-confidence in life and relationships, you're in the right place.

My wife, Bridgett, and I, created The Outlier's Way as a coaching model and lifestyle. We've both navigated some really challenging times in our lives, and we've realized that our experiences, failures, and successes can bring great value to those who are seeking more purpose and power.

For me, I've navigated life’s challenges in pursuit of a purposeful and fulfilling life for decades as a professional firefighter, businessman, husband, and father of four, and I've overcome great opposition in pursuit of purpose.

Bridgett has a powerful story of redemption as well, after a long search for a deeper meaning in life following the death of her stillborn son.All that said, here's what I know to be true if you're a man reading this letter...

Every man wants to feel powerful and confident and experience deeply connected relationships. However, there are a couple of significant challenges successful men face in this pursuit.

One, the level of certainty many men have is tied directly to the success they've created, but there's often a nagging fear inside that they may lose what they have, or may not even feel worthy.

The second challenge is that there’s a spiritual battle and an unseen enemy that seeks to destroy your dreams and success.

Both of these challenges require a radical mindset shift, so you can confidently know who you are and what you're capable of, even if all your external success came crashing down tomorrow.

This soul-level certainty allows you to create and rebuild whatever results you want in life (health, wealth, relationships), when you're no longer driven by fear, insecurity, or comparison to others.

The good news is, you have the power to overcome any obstacle life throws at you when you truly understand who you are and what you’re capable of.

The Outlier's Way programs are designed to help you achieve results beyond what you think is possible (we're talking about purpose, power, self-confidence, and fulfillment, not just money).

The core four daily action plan for your faith, family, fitness, and finances will set you up for exponential growth. In addition, mastering the three key relationships (God, yourself, and others) can bring soul-level certainty that will give you the faith and confidence to boldly create the life you want.

Our highest-level clients have found financial success and are now seeking more life fulfillment, better relationships, and true inner happiness.

Others might be in an earlier phase of their financial journey, and seeking guidance to progress spiritually and financially without compromising their relationships and health.

In our programs, I bring decades of life experience. The goal is to help you navigate obstacles and limiting beliefs while integrating the supernatural power of God into daily living.

For me, the integration of faith is not taken lightly. I’ve come to understand that a genuine relationship with God is paramount through my years of experience navigating trials, taking risks, and learning hard lessons.

Through my experience in a 25-year marriage that didn't stand the test of time, seeing the negative effects on my four adult children, and many ups and downs in business, I've gained insights into what it truly takes to establish a lasting, fulfilling, and connected life.

Today I am doing what I want in life and business, and I have a passionate, on-fire marriage beyond what I thought could have ever been possible

You've likely already got more money than you know what to do with, and if so, you may find yourself frustrated or confused because you got the success you were looking for but still feel empty and unfulfilled.

I get it.

There have been many high points professionally throughout my life, but I wasn't being true to myself, or tapping into the fullness of opportunity available to me to partner with God in creating the life I wanted.

I’ve invested significantly in my personal and spiritual development over the years, learning from some of the greatest minds. What I've discovered is that while money and material success are important, they don't, by themselves, bring happiness.

I'm not easily moved by your money or your success, and neither is God. What moves me is a man with a heart to do something significant in this world. A man who wants to step onto the front lines and fight for the freedom we all deserve, personally, financially, and spiritually.

If you're that man – the man who wants to level up and find a greater purpose and place of contribution in this life, then join my circle and leverage my experience to find the purpose, power, and provision you were created for.

Join The Outlier’s Way and create the life you want.

Trevor

www.outliersway.com

If You're Ready To Boost Your Self-Confidence, Live With More Purpose, Feel More Powerful, And Move Your Life From Ordinary To Extraordinary, Book A Call With Me Today.

If You're Ready To Boost Your Self-Confidence Or Change Your Love Life , Book A Call With Me Today.

Embrace the power of your masculinity in a supportive, loving, and passionate relationship. You deserve nothing less.

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Seeking Relationship Guidance from Those with Strong Relationships
Confront Your Issues with Genuine Masculine Accountability
Express Your Truth Fearlessly, While Building Meaningful Male Friendships

In your relentless pursuit of success, you might find yourself entangled in the web of uncertainty, grappling with a vague understanding of your true capabilities and purpose. This quiet insecurity not only casts shadows over your faith, family, fitness, and finances but also leaves a negative mark on the lives of your loved ones. Without a firm grasp of your purpose and soul-deep certainty, the negative ramifications echo through various aspects of your life.

In matters of faith, the absence of a genuine connection with a higher power can result in spiritual turmoil. Struggling with mainstream religious practices that may feel inadequate or mediocre, you yearn for a deeper connection with a powerful God to provide guidance and purpose.

Within your family, the impact is profound. Your children experience a father who wrestles with his own insecurities, unsure of his capabilities and purpose. This uncertainty can sow seeds of doubt and confusion within the family dynamic, affecting the emotional well-being and development of the next generation.

Financial stability, a pillar of success, can crumble under the weight of self-doubt. The lack of confidence may hinder decisive actions in business and financial matters, leading to missed opportunities and stunted growth.

In matters of fitness and health, the neglect stemming from a lack of self-assurance can manifest physically. The toll of stress and anxiety may take a detrimental toll on overall well-being, leading to compromised health and vitality.

Happiness, the ultimate pursuit, often eludes those grappling with insecurities. The void created by the absence of soul-level certainty and a deeper purpose casts a long shadow over personal joy and fulfillment.

Yet, in the face of these challenges, the promise of transformation is available to you. A knowledgeable and compassionate coach, armed with a proven coaching model, can guide you toward a profound understanding of yourself.

This journey, grounded in a genuine connection with a powerful God beyond conventional practices, offers the potential to alleviate the pain points in faith, family, fitness, and finances. The ripple effects extend beyond your personal growth, influencing the lives of your children, the prosperity of your businesses, and the overall health and happiness of your existence.

About Me

I'm a retired lieutenant firefighter, author, speaker, investor, entrepreneur, and health and wealth coach, deeply committed to my roles as a husband, father, and friend of God.

Leveraging decades of experience in family, business, and the fire service, I'm dedicated to mentoring others in their mindset, health, and wealth, which inevitably adds value to every other area of their life.

There are two types of people I work with one-on-one:

❶ Men in their 40's and 50's who are financially successful but struggle with the pain points of being overweight and out of shape. I help them improve their health, increase vitality, and regain control over their physical well-being.

❷ The less advanced person in business who wants to increase self-confidence, make more money, and have more influence. This process often includes helping them write and monetize a non-fiction book.

The Outlier's Way

Hey! We are Trevor and Bridgett Dunbar, the founders of The Outlier's Way. We equip Kingdom Outliers to find true freedom, make more money, and have more influence by releasing their voice and monetizing their message through strategic book writing.

In addition, we create resources that help people build successful lives and leave lasting legacies. Our highest goal is to help you become the best version of yourself and create the powerful life that God intended for you, beyond the limitations of institutions, dogmas, and mainstream thinking.

Check out our site at the link below to learn more.

The Outlier's Way

Hi! We are Bridgett and Trevor Dunbar, the founders of The Outlier's Way. We equip Kingdom Outlier's to find true freedom, make more money, and have more influence by releasing their voice and monetizing their message through strategic book writing.

Check out all our resources and services below to learn more.

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Hire me for a breakthrough in your identity (self-confidence/connection to God), health, wealth, or relationships.

My coaching framework is designed for those seeking results and lasting change for a better quality of life and personal fulfillment.

I primarily work with two types of people:

❶ Men in their 40's and 50's who are financially successful but struggle with the pain points of being overweight and out of shape. I help them improve their health, increase vitality, and regain control over their physical well-being – which, in turn, improves every area of their life.

❷ The less advanced person in business who wants to increase self-confidence, make more money, and have more influence. This process often includes helping them write and monetize a non-fiction book as a timeless marketing asset and identity shifter.

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A Guide for Kingdom Outliers to Write, Publish, and Monetize a Non-Fiction Book

I believe every person with ambition and a dream should write their own mission statement to get clear about what they want to create in their life and how they will conduct themselves in the process.

I hope this inspires you to write your personal mission statement based on your values and dreams and that you commit to seeing it fulfilled.

Sometimes it's nice to simply review what you've already learned. In this book I bullet-point key lessons from 18 of the most impactful leadership, business, and relationship books and I included a link to each book if you want to read the entire thing.

Books like Think and Grow Rich, Rich Dad Poor Dad, $100M Leads, How To Win Friends and Influence People, If How To's Were Enough We'd All Be Skinny, Rich, and Happy, The Greatest Salesman in the World, and many more...

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Adam Schindler, GA

Business, faith, family, technology, all things in my life that can use a fresh infusion of creativity and energy were touched and stirred up to become stronger and more fruitful. I highly recommend Trevor Dunbar as a coach and leader, I trust him as a brother and kingdom man.

Chad Jeffers, TN

Within seconds of meeting Trevor… his bold, honest, straightforward personality stands tall and you know that he means business. He’s definitely a person that everyone needs in their life.

Tom Hoffrage, PA

Trevor is the real deal. Honest, passionate, genuine, humble, intentional. His ability to see things in other people, things they can’t see yet, is a true gift. His love of God and pursuit of the Kingdom is unmatched. He is someone I definitely want in my corner.

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